Book Review : Rachna Priyadarshini
Books : Aazadi Mera Brand
Publisher : Rajkamal Prakashan
Writer : Anuradha Benibal
Price : Rupees 199/-
Anuradha is a Bindaas, happy-go-lucky type girl, who wants just one thing from this world from her society, from her family i.e, freedom. Freedom to live her life on her own way...according to her own choice and conditions, to roam around every nook and corner in this world being tension free, being fearless and by holding her head high. She wants freedom that can dignify her life as a human being and can give her some reasons to feel proud of them. Though, she also says- ''Freedom is neither a thing to give and take nor it can be snatched from someone. It can only be lived, can only be enjoyed. May be, for this reason, she always wants to make her own way different from the traditional ones bounded with moral values and rules. She feels irritated to think that why all the rules and regulations have been made only for girls, and not for boys? Why do girls always need to prove themselves? They are also human beings, not any mathematics theory that needs to prove every time.
Anuradha says that we the girls don't get chance to learn from our bad or wrong experiences, instead we are forced to accept whatever told by the society and by our families. If they feel something is good, we are bound to accept that as 'good' and if they think something is bad means 'bad' for us too. We are still not allowed to see our lives through our own experiences and logic. We are pressurized to have a certificate of 'good girl’ since childhood.
Actually Anuradha, since her childhood, had a desperate desire to 'kiss' someone despite being born and brought in a traditional rural family, but she couldn't do so as like others, her house living was renewed only if she continued to be a 'good girl.' And that is why she herself left her small village and moved freely and vigorously with full zeal and zest towards the journey of 13 different nations in search of finding new ways of her life on her own experiences.
New countries, new people, new paths, new goals, new experiences and on the bases of these all, she develops her new thoughts and experiences. However the one thing that she finds very pleasant in the European nations out of India is their openness. Not only in behavior, but in their mentality also. There is neither to observe others nor to keep an eye on whatever others are doing. Everyone is free to go anywhere and anytime. No one minds whether you are kissing someone while walking or walking with someone while kissing. No one is worried about these things.
So what does it mean? Don’t they have concerns about their cultures? Anuradha was unable to get a clue of this but whatever it be, it seems very natural and simple. Even being intimate isn’t a taboo there. If two persons are badly in love with each other, being intimate is what is the natural outcome of that relationship.
May be the reason is that there are healthy discussions held between teachers and students during school life. Students are learnt about their physical and mental changes taking place with the growing age. And that’s why people there respect not only their own body and feelings but also respect others’. Anuradha feels that it’s very unfortunate that we Indians even having the examples on ‘Khajuraho’ and ‘Kamsutra’ in our culture have closed our eyes and repressed our feelings. We even try to avoid discussing on such issues. She says that we are knowledgeable or scholars, but it doesn’t mean that only the world should take lessons from us and we don’t learn anything from them. They learn many things from our country and our culture. Now we need to learn something from the world by going beyond our ego.
Above all, the each and every page of this book introduces its readers to a new way and a new color of life. You never feel yourself alone or bore while passing through any pavement. While returning from her journey, the writer thinks only about one thing that she never felt awkward while crossing through a solitary street in a strange city of an unknown country with a strange person, but why she feels threatened while thinking to do the same things in her own country, in her own village? After all we ourselves made our society, so will this not be changed, if we will change ourselves? Then why to wait and whom to wait to be changed? All of us will have to change ourselves first and then expect others to do so. The writer believes that our country must be changed as per its need even though slowly and steadily.